Posted on April 19 2022
Your friends and family love and care about you, but sometimes they have strange ways of showing it. Some people withdraw and avoid talking to you. Others "smother" you and treat you like a child. Many cancer survivors find that one of the barriers to a smooth transition from cancer treatment is the reaction of their friends and family. One way for cancer survivors to prepare for relationship difficulties is to anticipate these problems and plan accordingly.
- Give thanks to your support system: We tend to think that our loved one don’t understand what we’re going through, and it’s true, they don´t. That doesn’t mean we should push them aside. Our loved ones are basically angels on earth. Keep in mind the people closest to us are also challenged physically, emotionally, and even financially. They share your ups and downs, they cry, pray, curse, and worry. It’s very easy to get caught up in your own issues and forget about your loved one’s suffering. Show your appreciation towards them whether it’s a letter, dinner, movie, etc.
- Google: Internet can be of great help when looking to learn more about your cancer, nonetheless it can also be counterproductive and overwhelming. Make sure you’re looking at official educational websites for instance; what is the source of this information? Is there any contact information listed below? Are the links relevant and appropriate for the site? We recommend you always keep a journal where you can take notes of all the things you find online and bring it along with you to your next doctor’s appointment, after all your doctor should be your most trustful source.
- Help! Even after this long journey of overcoming cancer, it is perfectly normal for you to feel vulnerable, however this is not the time to let your ego stand in the way. Don’t think you’re a burden to other people, your loved ones will be more than understanding. Start organizing your needs by making a list, what can you do and what can others do for you, coordination is key. The trick is to be open to unexpected relationships and accept when help comes your way. Moreover, don’t forget to be grateful, thank Jesus, Buddha, the universe or whatever it is you believe in!
- You are not your disease: It’s time to see beyond cancer! Let people know you’re now looking to move forward from that chapter of your life. You can’t change how people perceive you, but you can change how you see yourself; you can start with a positive affirmation journal to start changing your mindset. For instance: - I am BEAUTIFUL – I am a HEALER – I am a ROLE MODEL
- Heal vs. Cure: These words may be similar but there is a huge difference between them. Curemeans to resolve a disease or illness... Something, like a medicine or someone, like a doctor can cure a disease or illness. Heal refers to repairing your body, mind, and spirit. This means that with healing, there is a journey that provides you with the intelligence from your experience. Healing may involve change and acceptance of that change. Spirituality may accompany this healing, in that there is patience, understanding, and faith.
Don’t ever compare yourself to others, healing takes time. Anxiety and stress don’t cure cancer. Trust and believe your healing process has begun and from now on there’s no looking back.
A survivor is a triumphant person who lives with, after or despite a diagnosis or traumatic event.
- Inspired by Beth Villandry
- Kris Carr – Crazy, sexy cancer survivor